Online Dating, What Now?
8 months ago AuthorJasonOrtiz 0
Since online dating became the new norm, there has been a spike in reports in people being scammed, played, lied to and so many other unfortunate events.
I want to utilize this time to talk a little about online dating, some tips and other important information you should be exposed to.
As we know, finding the right person to date has never been a simple task, sometimes no matter how hard you try there is always a feeling, that there is someone out there just for you but yet, you haven’t found them just quite yet. Dating itself is an investment, an investment of time, money and emotion. Ideally, we’d like to know that our investments always delivered profits and rewards, but the reality is, sometimes we learn and sometimes we lose.
Well, welcome to the wonderful world of online dating, where the days of being hooked up by your friend’s friend or taking one for the team is no longer a need.
Now you can sign up and log on to an online dating site and you are ready to go to find your “ideal” date. In this manner, you hope that someone is honest enough to illustrate important parts of who they are before you even meet so you can check them out without them knowing and make a decision without their manipulation or input.
Of course, someone like myself, I am an old fashion, either I create a physical situation, or I allow the universe to assist in person, but I do see the benefits of online dating.
One benefit is anonymity. How cool is it to be able to research people before they even know what you look like? You get to scope out their life on and off the dating site by cross-referencing the information they posted on the site. Also, even more importantly, you can hide vital information including phone contacts, address, surnames and whatever else when creating a profile. Omitting information is not lying, especially if it can lead to safety compromises.
This affords you the time you may need to create any form of trust with someone out there whose looks and interests may be of your liking. You don’t have to worry about someone contacting you outside the site if you do not provide the information to them and should someone be a tad bit annoying, you can simply block them and continue with your search to the next person. The opportunities are vast, and this is at your pace.
There is a chance that online dating can put you in touch with some great people and you just might end up finding your Prince Charming or Dream Girl, however, online dating is not without its risks.
Due to these risks in online dating, I wanted to cover some of them for you.
Let’s start with your profile. Do not in any way give too much personal information. That should only be shared after a level of comfort has been established and once you can do some research on your date. You do NOT need to include real phone numbers, detailed addresses (just the state or city will suffice) or real name. If your name is Jasmine, it is ok to only put a first name or a nickname like “Jazzy” and then add why you didn’t want to put the full name.
For at least the first couple weeks, only communicate through the sites available chatting services. No need to rush into a personal phone number. Make sure that whatever dating site you join, they keep your information private and only release what you wish.
Once you feel you know someone well enough, you can then disclose your personal details and also set up a date. And in case you do end up communicating with someone who turns out to be a creep (they are unfortunately unavoidable), your real identity will be protected.
Do not in any way ask someone over to your place on the first date. I am not trying to tell you about how sexually active to be but protecting self and your home is incredibly important. There have been instances where offering too much too soon because of being misled online has led to tragedy.
Do not even have them pick you up at your home. Instead, arrange to meet up at the designated spot where there are other people present and tell someone where you are going.
If you have a friend on the site, try to set up a double date or some setting where you are close by, this way you won’t be alone when meeting this new date and in the event you need a safe way to bail out.
Importantly, do NOT drink alcohol on your first date with someone new. If you need drinks to enjoy a date or to loosen up, you are not ready to date as it is but the real reason for me saying this is because you can NOT trust someone just yet.
You should be alert and uncompromised when engaging with someone new. Do not accept drinks from your date but instead make sure your drinks are brought to you by the waiter or the bar tender. If you have to go to the restroom and there is some water or soda or whatever left in your cup, do not drink it but instead order a new drink. Too often, people have been drugged and taken advantage of and the person they are meeting for the first time turns out to be someone completely different.
Keeping mind of these online dating safety tips, you can rest easy knowing that you are doing all you can to protect yourself. And if you took all these precautions, then you can be free to go out and have a great time with your new online date.
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